I want to ruminate less

Coaching prompts: Real accounts from coaching sessions

Illustration by Kiry Luc

Coachee: I’ve recently had a health problem recur that I thought was cured. The issue is keeping me from working out. When I don’t stay active, I get in my head. I’m realizing that when things take a turn that I don’t expect, I try to wait until they go back to normal. When they don’t immediately go back to normal, I get frustrated and impatient. Then I start to ruminate, which makes me feel worse. I don’t know what to do.

Coach: What do you really want?

Coachee: I want to ruminate less.

Additional Questions:

  • What are your expectations for going back to normal?
  • What would you prefer to do rather than ruminate?
  • What do you lose when things aren’t normal? What do you gain?

David’s Final Thought: Change is often disruptive and uncomfortable. That said, try to pause and consider what you have to learn from the change. Logistically, I recommend writing it down or talking to someone about it so you don’t keep those thoughts solely in your head.

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